Laurie, a friend of mine, blogged about being shy. Her post hit home with me, brought back so many memories--not all of them pleasant. I was shy too, painfully shy, and still am to a certain degree. I imagine a lot of writers wrestle with shyness and that's why we turn to writing. Our safe world. I'd certainly rather stare at a blank page than an unfriendly, judgmental face. There are lots of them out there.
I believe shyness comes from insecurity. I despise it when both traits rear their ugly heads. Here's what I do to fight them:
1) I joined Toastmasters and take part in their speaking assignments. If I ever have a heart attack it'll probably be during a Toastmaster speech. :) Mmmm, mall walking might get me first.
2) I volunteer to speak in writer's groups. Fun. I love writing and talking about it so I get lost in my topic. Lord knows if I make sense!
3) I join critique groups even though they feed my insecurity. I haven't learned how to combat this problem yet. A real battle. :(
4) I force myself to go to writer's conferences and speak with editors and agents. I love the seminars because I'm a perpetual student. I'd still be in college if I could afford it. :) I despise pitching my work to editors and agents. Can't begin to tell you how much.
5) I force myself to walk out my door each day and join the world when I'd rather stay home and be with my family.
But, thankfully, God gives us courage through His Word.
I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from my fears. Psalm 34:4
He's our rock and refuge so we need to call on Him before we ever get out of bed in the mornings. Sometimes I say, "Praise God, He's given me another day!"
God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
He's great at calming racing hearts. Really! Is that spirit of timidity our own creation?
I rise early, before the sun is up; I cry out for help and put my hope in your words. Psalm 119:147
His word should be our confidence. Sometimes I forget and trek off on my own. I feel sad when I realize I've abandoned God. Hallelujah, He never abandons me.
So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? Hebrews 13:6
Commit it to memory. We will not be afraid or intimidated or shy... we are in the Lord and He is in us. Praise God from whom all blessings flow. He is in us.